Ok. So if there’s one thing I’ve learned while dealing with infertility, it’s that people are ignorant.
For the MOSTpart, there are good intentions behind the comments and advice.
HOWEVER, every once in a while I run across people who are not only ignorant, but rude, heartless and simply don’t think.
On Facebook, I follow a few pages that are dedicated to Infertility and Pregnancy Loss. While I’m pretty vocal about my journey to my friends and family, sometimes it’s nice to have a private place that I can just vent and rage with absolutely ZERO judgment. I try so hard to steer clear of the drama that can be created and only say something when I can educate and enlighten people who make stupid, judgmental comments. I don’t like to feed into the stereotype that infertile women are bitter and selfish by wanting something they can’t have rather than appreciating what they do, but this person ABSOLUTELY tipped the scales….
I could NOT bite my tongue. In this world, we need more women that are willing to build each other up instead of tearing them down and making them feel bad for something that they have NO control over… Luckily, I am a part of another group that rallied to my side when I informed them of the comments that were being made. I almost felt bad for the woman – for a minute. I appreciated the fact that she apologized, and she seemed to learn her lesson about needing to choose her words – and the place she chooses to express them – more carefully next time. If you want to read the whole exchange, you can do so here.
I’m so grateful for the friends that I have made on this journey. A lot of them feel more like sisters than friends and I will love them forever. I hate that we are all dealing with the same things, but love the relationships that are built instantly.