Wow! You would be 1 year old next month!!
There’s so many first’s that we’ve missed – First smile. First tooth. First word. First roll over. First time sitting up. First Christmas.
I still wonder about you every day. Were you a girl? A boy? (There’s a couple of us – including me – that just have a gut feeling that you were a boy!) Would you have had a lot of hair? Would you have your daddy’s calm personality or mommy’s rambunctious temperament? What color would your eyes have been? Would you have had my nose? Daddy’s ears? Would you have been tall? What would you have wanted to be when you grew up?
I may not have held you long enough when I lost you to really know much about you, but I do know this: Your daddy and I love you very much.
I wish that we could have met you. That we could have held you in our arms just once. But I know that if I’d held you only once, it would have never been long enough. We will hold you forever in our hearts though!
I have a friend that is going through just what I went through when we lost you. It brings back so many emotions and memories. Even ones that I’d pushed way down. It’s so hard to listen and not want to – or be able to – fix it. It makes my heart ache. Mostly because I know that her and her husband will ask all the same questions we ask. Will you find their child and hug him or her for them? And squeeze extra tight so that they are also hugging you for us.
I want her to know that – while the hurt never goes away, it does subside. That while it still aches when I think of you, I can talk about you more without that throat-closing, eye-burning feeling being as bad. That while my arms ache to hold you, my heart fills with hope for the future instead of sadness for the past.
It still seems so surreal sometimes… that I am a mom.
Don’t worry – your dad and I are working very hard to have a brother or sister for you! While it’s tougher than we thought it would be, we are learning so much! We are learning how to be strong. We are learning how to trust. We are learning how to lean on each other. We are learning that while we dream about the life we want, that God is preparing us for something bigger than our biggest dreams!
Thank you for giving us hope. Thank you for letting us love you. Thank you for being our angel.
All Our Love,
Mommy and Daddy